tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post2532182694577388620..comments2023-07-30T10:15:11.927+01:00Comments on xbox 4 nappy rash: The seventh senseMartinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comBlogger101125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-83156381597519855092008-08-20T09:00:00.000+01:002008-08-20T09:00:00.000+01:00@Geeks in Rome - Funny, I was just thinking last n...@Geeks in Rome - Funny, I was just thinking last night that I hadn't visited you in a while, and here you are to remind me!<BR/><BR/>'Lost people' is right, what an unusual existence.<BR/><BR/>As for the optimism, it's great, for now.<BR/><BR/>Funny how a few simple bits of information can make all the difference, and yet we are not always aware.<BR/>When ovulation 'should' occur, when the right time is to take advantage of it etc.<BR/><BR/>Simple things, but we are not always in the know.Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-44145955750993653172008-08-20T04:55:00.000+01:002008-08-20T04:55:00.000+01:00Amen, you do have this 7th sense of "barren-radar"...Amen, you do have this 7th sense of "barren-radar" and it is a gift. I am grateful for having developed it, too. What a beautifully written post about "the lost people." <BR/><BR/>I hope your hunch is right. Ovulation is a wacky thing. I have very irregular cycles so it was impossible to predict my period and therefore OV. I was so suprised to learn it's not 14 days after yr last period, but 14 days before yr next. Also that Spencer needs to punch in right before ovulation actually occurs and not during or after -- such very witchcrafty stuff. But between the OPKs and studying snaily cervical mucous, I got pretty damn good at predicting when the egg would hatch. came in handy when the tubes finally got clear for the sperms' landing. <BR/><BR/>GOOD LUCK. may your string of guests have provided the needed good fortune!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-24824304464364882882008-08-19T08:01:00.000+01:002008-08-19T08:01:00.000+01:00@Karen MEG - wow. you got that so right, some of t...@Karen MEG - wow. you got that so right, some of those words, weariness especially.<BR/><BR/>and 'You just don't know what it will do to you.' <BR/><BR/>So right.<BR/><BR/>Thank you.<BR/><BR/>@Anonymous - Its warming to see you still have a good connection, especially after such long hard times.<BR/>The best best of luck to you.Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-9109218067577212372008-08-19T04:40:00.000+01:002008-08-19T04:40:00.000+01:00My husband and I have been on the infertility side...My husband and I have been on the infertility side for five years now. We moved a year ago to a place that we plan on being at for a while and have finally started the more serious process of it all. Trust me, I understand... but I see it so differently than 98% of the "infertile"... I wear my flip flops, smile, hold my husbands hand (it's him, not me) and know that these moments are important too... he's my everything... and if it's God choice for us not to have a baby biologically, than... that's what will happen... I can't change fate... I can only mess with it so much with science... that's not to say I don't have bad days... but most days are amazing. The best most encouraging words I have ever received that I will share with you is that "good parents don't go to waste" your time is coming... patience, lots of hand holding, and a positive attitude will get us all there with a few less wrinkles :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-54712212075519115062008-08-18T18:52:00.000+01:002008-08-18T18:52:00.000+01:00You do sense it. I believe you. I think it eman...You do sense it. I believe you. I think it emanates, comes from the pores, the aura... hope/ despair, weariness ... it needs to be let out somehow.<BR/><BR/>After all our struggles, going through it, I was horribly bitter towards some people; and immensely more sensitive to others. You just don't know what it will do to you.<BR/><BR/>But in the end I did come out of it more attuned. And perhaps now I give off vibes that I am one people can talk to about it. It's amazing the number of conversations I've had with people, some virtual strangers, about this issue. Almost as if I wear an invisible badge that declares that I lived through it and this "shiny happy" exterior has some deeper, more painful layers.<BR/><BR/>I think that in a lot of ways, once an "infertile", always an infertile. <BR/><BR/>This was an awesome post.Karen MEGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10834425321020756655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-73633610647154038872008-08-17T22:17:00.000+01:002008-08-17T22:17:00.000+01:00@Jothemama - we seem to cross our wires here a bit...@Jothemama - we seem to cross our wires here a bit eh?<BR/><BR/>;0)<BR/><BR/>@STE - I've written tens of thousands of words on here about it, but what you said is more accurate than the lot!<BR/><BR/>Take care.Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-8353251318673149912008-08-17T21:59:00.000+01:002008-08-17T21:59:00.000+01:00I hate to sound trite, but I'll say it anyway: In...I hate to sound trite, but I'll say it anyway: Infertility fucking sucks. <BR/><BR/>Hope it helps just a bit that there are others who understand just how much it sucks.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-54148903230767254612008-08-17T21:06:00.000+01:002008-08-17T21:06:00.000+01:00No, no, I really mean what you said, fair enough. ...No, no, I really mean what you said, fair enough. <BR/><BR/>It's not like I can prove it :)Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08988685736635515808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-60158705529994945472008-08-17T14:24:00.000+01:002008-08-17T14:24:00.000+01:00@Jothemama - consciousness, you mean me or 'the ba...@Jothemama - consciousness, you mean me or 'the baby'?<BR/><BR/>Like religion and faith etc, you can't force a belief, and you can't fake it either.<BR/><BR/>Your words were lovely, honestly, but I can't do those things and believe.Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-79587375259931743792008-08-17T14:09:00.000+01:002008-08-17T14:09:00.000+01:00No consciousness before conception? Fair enough.No consciousness before conception? <BR/><BR/>Fair enough.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08988685736635515808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-46410655545639391222008-08-17T13:31:00.000+01:002008-08-17T13:31:00.000+01:00@Nola - I dunno can I do your comment real justice...@Nola - I dunno can I do your comment real justice, but thanks.<BR/>For what it's worth, I am personally, still VERY optimistic.<BR/>More so now than in a long time.<BR/><BR/>It's already taken longer than I anticipated so I'm prepared for the long haul.<BR/>Thanks.<BR/><BR/>@jothemama - In short Jo, No.<BR/>You make it sound very nice, almost romantic, but I really don't have the belief in that.<BR/><BR/>For me, it's biology, and luck.<BR/><BR/>Everything else is self reservation.<BR/><BR/>I wish I could but<BR/> it wouldn't be genuine.<BR/><BR/>THanks!<BR/><BR/><BR/>@Jared - No way, don't every feel shitty about that.<BR/><BR/>We hear the same news from people every week. <BR/><BR/><BR/>Thanks for the kind words, and enjoy the peace and quiet while you can!Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-58698655570031220362008-08-17T05:52:00.000+01:002008-08-17T05:52:00.000+01:00Dude, I feel shitty knowing that I am one of those...Dude, I feel shitty knowing that I am one of those people you read about. I was really hoping that you would succeed before we did.<BR/><BR/>Keep your head up man! Focus on what you have in your life...not what you don't.<BR/><BR/>I'm a true believer that good things come to good people, and you sir, are good people. :D<BR/><BR/>Enjoy it! Time flies when you are having fun, right?Jaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02997812567708741554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-25814907950492406022008-08-16T23:08:00.000+01:002008-08-16T23:08:00.000+01:00Nice comment, Nola. I think. Xbox, are you guys ta...Nice comment, Nola. I think. <BR/><BR/>Xbox, are you guys talking to your baby? The one that's in the holding pattern, waiting til their time is right? <BR/><BR/>You could tell them what they're coming to, the love that is waiting for them. How welcome they are. Tell them it's time, you're ready, invite them to you now. <BR/><BR/>Open up to the baby in the ether. Call them, the one that's waiting for you. <BR/><BR/>If it was me, I'd be doing that with candles and rose oil and so on, but I'm a big white-witch, hippy type, really. You might prefer to do it silently, or write it. Do the medical stuff, and the terminology, but talk to the baby too.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08988685736635515808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-30436668853246644702008-08-16T17:40:00.000+01:002008-08-16T17:40:00.000+01:00Ah. Heartbreaking. Sometimes I read your blog and...Ah. Heartbreaking. Sometimes I read your blog and feel I can add hope and commiseration. And then there are these days where, honestly, it just sucks and that's all there is to it. I saw what you are seeing. Still see it. You are not mad, or at least no more mad than others who have gone down your rough path. <BR/><BR/>CS and I are thinking about having a second child. And using fertility treatment again. And whether we do it or not, that's not my point. My point is, I now have 100% confidence IF we did it, we'd conceive. And I KNOW you can't know that for yourselves no more than we could know it with Sun. BUT if you (and if we could have with Sun) can *pretend* to know it--to have that faith--oh, the stress you can save yourself. In other words, give the worry to the doctors. Let this issue be in their hands and you just follow their advice. And when the doc says it's hopeless THEN you allow that to be. But UNTIL AND UNLESS the docs say that, don't let it steal your thoughts. <BR/><BR/>I say this not to preach. But to help where I needed it most. I really, really, really thought the fertility treatment wouldn't work. I KNEW it wouldn't. And I beat myself up and worried and all that shit for NOTHING. It was the worst time of my life and much of it was my own doing. If I could spare you just an inch of it, I would.<BR/><BR/>But if you had told me this back then, I woulda say, that's your case. Mine is different. And I still woulda done just as I did. <BR/><BR/>Except for this. (Okay, here comes the longest comment ever, sorry!). I had lunch with a male friend of mine during this time, and he too had been down the road and ended up with twins.<BR/><BR/>And he said to me, "It'll happen. It just may take longer than you anticipate." For some reason, him telling me that, the same thing my husband and doctors had been more subtly suggesting, clicked. And I believed. I was calm and felt reassured. Those feelings of confidence didn't last, unfortunately, but I would return to his words time and again for comfort. Even if he was wrong, if the words eased my suffering for a spell, I would take the peace. <BR/><BR/>So I say to you: It will happen. It just may take longer than you anticipate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-59121005452191560422008-08-16T14:45:00.000+01:002008-08-16T14:45:00.000+01:00@Jane G - you showed more restraint than I would h...@Jane G - you showed more restraint than I would have, thats for sure.<BR/><BR/>@Sully Sullivan - would it be tastless of me to point out the hundred I got last week ;0P<BR/>Kori chose well sir, as I've already said.<BR/><BR/>Thanks man.<BR/><BR/>@Sarah - Thanks Sarah, I've put a few together I want to use for a post.<BR/><BR/>@Maxi Cane - Thanks a million, it's a real boost to hear that.<BR/>I love when the Irish faces pop up.<BR/>Cheers.<BR/><BR/>@Deno - It's a good step deno, I really fucking hope you get good news in two weeks again.<BR/>Let us know yeah?<BR/><BR/>@Jo Beaufoix - Thank you Jo, I appreciate it.<BR/><BR/>@Leslie Lane - Nice to hear you connect with it. Thanks.<BR/><BR/>@Rita - Thanks for the story, I can only be glad you came through it, successfully.<BR/>Thanks a million.<BR/><BR/>@Tiff - Sorry Tiff. But yes, we'll never take it granted, ever.<BR/><BR/>@Kelley - A pain of need, & envy. Absolutely spot on.<BR/>Yep, we have totally different situations but the parallels are there.<BR/><BR/>You have my full respect.Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-17920296402578267002008-08-16T12:49:00.000+01:002008-08-16T12:49:00.000+01:00I know it is completely different. In a huge way....I know it is completely different. In a huge way. But I do understand your pain. When my friends children reach milestones, when Boo's peers treat him like a baby - lovely protective wonderful kids that they are - when people give me that look of realisation after saying something about finally having time to themselves when their kids leave home. I wonder if that will ever be me. I have got to trust that what I am doing will end in the result that I desperately need. As do you. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes when I read your blog the pain is so raw it makes me draw a sharp breath. I understand that pain, a completely different situation, but pain all the same. A pain of need. Of envy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-7417491012390636292008-08-16T06:17:00.000+01:002008-08-16T06:17:00.000+01:00Crying now.All you write is so true and I don't th...Crying now.<BR/>All you write is so true and I don't think you ever really lose that compassion or the ability to see other infertiles and you never take anything for granted in that realm, either.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-7270477125284283242008-08-16T05:34:00.000+01:002008-08-16T05:34:00.000+01:00Oh Xbox, you had me in tears. I do know what you a...Oh Xbox, you had me in tears. I do know what you and ET are going through. Although my hubby (the King-marriedleos) probably didn't feel like I did, I cringed every time someone we knew got pregnant, I would go home and cry. I wanted to hate these women, why were they better that me? I wanted to know why we couldn't get pregnant, how I wanted to have his child. Now I have two children from a previous marriage so I didn't understand why all of a sudden there was a problem. At first I thought it had to be the King because I had two kids, but that was ruled out once he was tested. We tried for two years (which I'm sure you will agree that is a very long time) before we tried invetro. After months gone by we finally got pregnant, and with twins. I do pray that long over due journey to parent hood is coming to a light, you have been through too much and just knowing that I feel that the both of you will become awesome parents. Don't give up hope.Rita's Rants n Raveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834170941452079476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-48851832526693897752008-08-16T02:01:00.000+01:002008-08-16T02:01:00.000+01:00Damn! You really get it. Thanks so much for this p...Damn! You really get it. Thanks so much for this post - I felt like you were reading my mind.Leslie Lainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07978669963745464690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-74528510279095733032008-08-16T01:03:00.000+01:002008-08-16T01:03:00.000+01:00Not crazy, and I really hope it happens for you.Not crazy, and I really hope it happens for you.Jo Beaufoixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00957369658590225971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-14002863339897661572008-08-15T22:18:00.000+01:002008-08-15T22:18:00.000+01:00oops ..typo...chromosomes.Denooops ..typo...chromosomes.<BR/>DenoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-45692859662473967292008-08-15T22:17:00.000+01:002008-08-15T22:17:00.000+01:00Xbox, the scan went well. I barely got myself up o...Xbox, the scan went well. I barely got myself up on the bed to get scanned, I was so petrified. I HATE ultrasounds...hate..hate..hate.<BR/>But the rasberry was there. Next hurdle is to see if it has 46 chromosones. The five I lost had abnormalities. I go back in 2 weeks. Good luck to Spencer....go on ye LAD!!<BR/>Thanks,<BR/>DenoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-67903369245574091132008-08-15T18:43:00.000+01:002008-08-15T18:43:00.000+01:00First time having a proper read here, dude.At this...First time having a proper read here, dude.<BR/>At this stage there's nothing I can say that hasn't been said already and I won't insult you with "Chin up" type lines.<BR/>You've touched a lot of people with your story so far and I'm sure it's helping someone some where go through something similar.<BR/><BR/>I usually end my comments with a witty word, but now is not the time.<BR/><BR/>I'll be checking in more often, I wish you the best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-6652222776427853372008-08-15T16:46:00.000+01:002008-08-15T16:46:00.000+01:00Y'know....considering how many laughs you've given...Y'know....considering how many laughs you've given ME, you can quote me till the cows come home!<BR/><BR/>G'head! =)<BR/><BR/>And really, coming from you...thats a huge compliment. Thanks!<BR/><BR/>Ciao!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11746229523316282053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-58995183978948307922008-08-15T14:54:00.000+01:002008-08-15T14:54:00.000+01:00Oh and as for my math on my comment a few posts ba...Oh and as for my math on my comment a few posts back...yeah I'm a moron. Obviously a cycle is a month which is 4 weeks. It must have been early that morning or something because I'm normally a bit sharper than that.Sully Sullivanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10466047551959793700noreply@blogger.com