tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post6423094207169833296..comments2023-07-30T10:15:11.927+01:00Comments on xbox 4 nappy rash: Too much information?Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-87004510548689778732008-06-20T19:17:00.000+01:002008-06-20T19:17:00.000+01:00@Quickroute - that kind of makes sense alright!@Jo...@Quickroute - that kind of makes sense alright!<BR/><BR/>@Jo Beaufoix - Hayfever is a bugger eh?<BR/><BR/>@Kareer Woman - My gut is right more often than not, now if only I could stop my head getting in the way.<BR/><BR/>@Tash - Hi Tash, welcome.<BR/>That's exactly it, it IS exciting, it IS big news to you, and you want to tell people.<BR/>But when things don't go to plan, it goes to hell.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for the story & the kind words.<BR/><BR/>@PJ - Yeah I wonder what do people think after a certain amount of time has passed, do they think you've stopped or do they forget!<BR/>We are the same, even though we know the chances of a natural conception as things stand is poor, we still get a bit fluttery towards the end of the cycle.<BR/>A man's perspective indeed, we're not aliens ;0)<BR/><BR/>@Michell - True, different groups react differently, family or friends.<BR/>Hindsight is great as they say.<BR/>Best of luck to you.Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-55456484848450554142008-06-20T16:14:00.000+01:002008-06-20T16:14:00.000+01:00When I first decided to try having a baby I told a...When I first decided to try having a baby I told almost my entire family and all my friends etc. I seem to have a problem keeping my mouth shut. I do sort of regret telling my family because I have to explain in the Christmas letter each year that "nope it hasn't happened yet". Strangely I don't regret telling my friends and will fairly easily discuss the difficulty of the whole thing with almost anyone.battynursehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02240029154165501340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-68886137009970863602008-06-20T15:13:00.000+01:002008-06-20T15:13:00.000+01:00Here from Mel's! Great post!Yes! People probably ...Here from Mel's! Great post!<BR/><BR/>Yes! People probably think we've just given up or something. I told people YEARS ago that we were trying -- and nothing.<BR/><BR/>Nowadays, I find myself (immensely idiotic) at some points in the cycle being optimistic and wanting to tell everyone, because I'm giddy and excited. And because damn, IVF and IUI take on a big part of your life. However, in other times of the cycle, I want to crawl under a rock and NOT discuss it. <BR/><BR/>Always so good to hear a man's perspective!Paula Kellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11545620300368378897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-19911125777102518072008-06-20T13:32:00.000+01:002008-06-20T13:32:00.000+01:00Here from Mel's Roundup: brilliant post. We didn...Here from Mel's Roundup: brilliant post. We didn't tell. For the stupid reason that I like surprises, and figured it would just be a nice one to spring on people. Instead we sprang the miscarriage news. And then people <I>knew</I>. And waited. And sighed. And looked at us askance. Child #1 I waited a while to tell anyone and child #2, much much longer. And since that ended so wildly badly if there is another, I'm hiding in the closet and figuring second-grade portraits will be a nice introduction to everyone.<BR/><BR/>It is exciting to try, isn't it. Ah, those first few months where caution is thrown to the air. Two years of timed-sex later it's much, much less fun. I'm sorry about the elephant. We have our own version that makes Happy Hour not so much. Thanks for the honesty and humor -- really that's what will save you in the end, I believe. Thinking of you.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-7064014118002035232008-06-20T03:22:00.000+01:002008-06-20T03:22:00.000+01:00I always say go with your gut. There would be a d...I always say go with your gut. There would be a different answer for every individual. Good luck :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-19103391267332373702008-06-18T22:55:00.000+01:002008-06-18T22:55:00.000+01:00Beautiful. You gave me leaky eyes.Beautiful. You gave me leaky eyes.Jo Beaufoixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00957369658590225971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-68954320845769072722008-06-18T10:41:00.000+01:002008-06-18T10:41:00.000+01:00@ Xbox: re: "Is Mrs Irish also or Argentinian?"The...<B>@ Xbox:</B> <I>re: "Is Mrs Irish also or Argentinian?"</I><BR/><BR/>The missus hails from Buenos Aires which kind of explains how I ended up down here.Paddy in BA (Quickroute)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12748161252400814925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-91483583855836324742008-06-18T09:40:00.000+01:002008-06-18T09:40:00.000+01:00@Sarah - that makes an immediate difference, if yo...@Sarah - that makes an immediate difference, if you know you can rely on the people you tell. <BR/><BR/>@Deb - Yes, indeed it can be.<BR/><BR/>@Struglas - I think I'm a long way from packing in this writing lark, it is literally keeping me going.<BR/><BR/>@Tismee2 - You are quite the 'random' one aren't you!<BR/><BR/>@Sinead - Remarkable story, honestly.<BR/><BR/>@Widdle Shamrock - Thank you, very kind.<BR/><BR/>@Our Crooked Tree - Believe me, if they knew, you knew, they were having trouble, they would in no way be more miserable by you asking how they are doing. Trust me.<BR/><BR/>@Manager Mom - They must be worth more than mine, so I'll gladly accept. I really do wish more people could understand, it woud make a hell of a difference.<BR/><BR/>@Malky B - Thanks for the link, sounds just up my street. Interestingly (or not) enough, Ben Elton has a novel called inconceivable which was turned into a movie, 'maybe baby'.<BR/>I've been trying to catch up on your podcasts also.<BR/><BR/>@Wpat - The country is in shock, seriously, I think the world is coming to an end.<BR/><BR/>@Quickroute - I'm impressed. Is Mrs Irish also or Argentinian? <BR/><BR/>@Justmylife - Thank you. Yes, sometimes it is, except when I get told to 'just relax', then it's harder to strangle people you can't see.<BR/>I think I would be writing all this regardless of whether anyone was listening/reading or not. <BR/><BR/>@Dorky Dad - Very kind of you to say sir. I know you've been popping in and out here since the early naive days!Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-87118162570431848462008-06-18T05:26:00.000+01:002008-06-18T05:26:00.000+01:00I'm kind of speechless, which may be due to the fa...I'm kind of speechless, which may be due to the fact that my brain has already surrendered for the day. So instead I'm just going to say that this was an excellent post, and I'm pulling for you. <BR/><BR/>Have been, actually, for some time now.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02737980462115396236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-44004705195212544862008-06-18T04:15:00.000+01:002008-06-18T04:15:00.000+01:00A very well written post. Is it easier to share wi...A very well written post. Is it easier to share with all us "strangers"?justmylifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11374379802087502624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-29229509651330261872008-06-18T03:46:00.000+01:002008-06-18T03:46:00.000+01:00@ Xbox: re: "Are you doing all this all in B.A." ...<B>@ Xbox: </B>re: <I>"Are you doing all this all in B.A."</I> Yes - all here in B.A. - signed up and paid for good health insurance so making the most of milking the system to get my pesos worth.Paddy in BA (Quickroute)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12748161252400814925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-6213520437093367022008-06-18T03:23:00.000+01:002008-06-18T03:23:00.000+01:00If the Netherlands can beat Italy, France, and Rom...If the Netherlands can beat Italy, France, and Romania you will get the job done. Who knows when, just keep plugging away brother!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-59831380805877129572008-06-18T03:13:00.000+01:002008-06-18T03:13:00.000+01:00Just wanted to say hi. I've been reading through y...Just wanted to say hi. I've been reading through your blog and think your doing an amazing job. It's always great to see the male perspective. You are right that there's not enough of it out there. You might like "Maybe Baby"<BR/>https://maybebaby.ctwfeatures.com<BR/>He is also writing a book soon on the male side of the infertility journey.Malky B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10989093667241082612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-86087877930114300662008-06-18T02:04:00.000+01:002008-06-18T02:04:00.000+01:00I have some friends who went through infertility t...I have some friends who went through infertility treatments and I never truly understood how they felt...thank you for giving me a window into their world. And I will send my thoughts and prayers(for whatever little they are worth) your way...Manager Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17648981937075813835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-9640489226055896152008-06-18T01:30:00.000+01:002008-06-18T01:30:00.000+01:00My heart aches for you; we had friends that had tr...My heart aches for you; we had friends that had trouble concieving and carrying to term. We avoided the topic with them after a while because we did not want to keep bringing it up and making them even more miserable. As their twins turned 4 this year we try to remind ourselves that all works out in the end. I know it will for you guys too.Our Crooked Treehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00227832609851976307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-82129998159652336472008-06-18T00:48:00.000+01:002008-06-18T00:48:00.000+01:00This post has brought tears to my eyes.As one who ...This post has brought tears to my eyes.<BR/><BR/>As one who struggled with fertility but come out the other end with children, I just wish with every fibre of my being that it would happen for you too. <BR/><BR/>And soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-15211564295331710632008-06-18T00:29:00.000+01:002008-06-18T00:29:00.000+01:00I have a friend who had cancer which had spread fr...I have a friend who had cancer which had spread from her ovaries, to her brain and breasts and she was given a 1/10,000 chance of living more than 3 months. When she was given this prognosis, she had been battling cancer for 4-5 years and I was one of only 6 or 7 people (including her family) who knew. Most of our mutual friends didn't know that she had cancer, let alone was given only months to live. There was nothing I could do for her but listen, try to distract her from her fear and pain and let her know that when things got too much I would be there for her. I couldn't really do anything else, but I was honoured that she chose me to share her problem with. Sometimes just having people to talk with allows you to vent, cry and despair. That can be cathartic. <BR/>There is a happy ending here. She undertook some pretty radical/alternative therapy and has now been cancer free for 7 years.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-66774986045251342862008-06-17T22:16:00.000+01:002008-06-17T22:16:00.000+01:00So are you asking us to start the jokes up again l...So are you asking us to start the jokes up again like in the olden days when you weren't into cycling?<BR/><BR/>I'm terrible at jokes , but I could throw a football insult or two at you if that would help?<BR/><BR/>Sorry, I'm not good at sympathy or hugging but at least your other readers are.<BR/><BR/>P.S Is the nation coming together then? Better get in more tissues!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-38521764498091034982008-06-17T18:21:00.000+01:002008-06-17T18:21:00.000+01:00as much as i'd hate to see you leave the interwebs...as much as i'd hate to see you leave the interwebs, i think that last post would be the most heartfelt, graceful exit ever.<BR/><BR/>nice work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-5268936771537745392008-06-17T18:15:00.000+01:002008-06-17T18:15:00.000+01:00I'm so sorry, hon. It is a terribly lonely experi...I'm so sorry, hon. It is a terribly lonely experience.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13850825844277186930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-72778058550088056882008-06-17T17:27:00.000+01:002008-06-17T17:27:00.000+01:00It is amazingly hard to know how much to share. I...It is amazingly hard to know how much to share. I am a very open person, and our struggles were known really before we even truly started trying because we already knew I had the stage four endo. In a lot of ways I think it makes it easier to be open with family and friends. They understand when you are emotional or moody. <BR/><BR/>For us they have been a huge form of support with all of this. We are really lucky and have wonderful friends and family who might not always know what to say, can commonly say things that are accidentally hurtful, but who truly love us and want this for us. Their support makes this a little easier...Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12248242606378957930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-67280245867224934552008-06-17T09:40:00.000+01:002008-06-17T09:40:00.000+01:00@Marylin - I actually thought it made no sense at ...@Marylin - I actually thought it made no sense at all, but thanks!<BR/><BR/>@Dan - You often have a gem or two up your sleeve Daniel.<BR/><BR/>@Irish Diaspora - Yep, things will change regardless, you just have to do whats best at any given time.<BR/>Thanks.<BR/><BR/>@Half Past Kissin' Time - Very kind, but I don't see that happening any time soon.<BR/><BR/>@immoral Matriarch - Cheer up Mitsy!<BR/><BR/>@kittyconcerto - that's another aspect to it, not many people want to imagine their friends humping 10 minutes before a dinner date...<BR/><BR/>@praydingtodarwin - I actually wasn't too sure if they celebrated it here on the same date or not. But either way...meh...<BR/><BR/>@Quickroute - In a way that's great, gets all the buzz out. At risk of sounding ignorant, are you doing all this in BA?<BR/><BR/>@AnnD - They are everywhere! don't worry. It CAN get you down in the dumps on occasion but those times you just click away. Other times, it's nice to see.<BR/>Thank you.<BR/><BR/>@Tara R - Yes hindsight indeed. I can see the reasoning too. Thanks.<BR/><BR/>@Rachel - Thank you very much.<BR/><BR/>@Dondi Tiples - Incompleteness, that's the crux of t all.<BR/><BR/>@Veronica - There's no knowing what's best. There really isn't.<BR/><BR/>@Maggie, Dammit - Weird and ironic for sure, here I am questioning whether to tell nearest & dearest and yet every thought is available for anyone who's interested.<BR/><BR/>@Jill - Well, I would say in their defense, if they've not experienced it before, they have no idea how to handle it with you.<BR/>Silence is often better than the unwanted advice.<BR/>I fully understand the urge to scream 'this is a big deal dammit' in peoples faces.<BR/><BR/>@Karen MEG -'you should try it sometime' like a new brand of coffee.<BR/>So hard to know. so hard.<BR/><BR/>@Ed - ah you know by now I'm a sucker for punishment.<BR/><BR/>@Tiff - Yes, this is what I think in my gut. Be open, the truth won't hurt anyone. It should just better equip us.<BR/>Makes the days of pulling the covers over your head harder to come by though.<BR/><BR/>@Sinead - They 'could' be, but imagine being given a problem by a friend that you have no solution to, how do you help?<BR/><BR/>@B - No bud, not happy, but just the way it is. if its a few laughs you're looking for, there should be a few chuckles in the archives!<BR/><BR/>@Aidan - If there are no issues, then everything runs smoothly and the questions and awkward moments won't really arise.<BR/>It's quite the rule yet, but 1 in 6 couples experience it, so it's prominent, and under represented.<BR/><BR/>@Carolyn - Sorry, couldn't help myself ;0)<BR/><BR/>@Meghan - Hi, what stage are you at now? We are lucky enough to avoid the questions for the most part due to geography.<BR/><BR/>@baby~amore - Self preservation indeed. Thats also my worry about those who do know, but stop asking. Still no children, but their questions remain, unasked.<BR/><BR/>@Fate's Granddaughter - - let it happen naturally/don't get carried away. Oh man. Makes me sick.<BR/>You can NOT stop thinking about it, ever.<BR/><BR/>@DD - I'm coming to the opinion that only those who have actually experienced it know. All the best intentions in the world won't help you understand if you haven't experienced it.<BR/><BR/>@Putz - You crack me up, thanks for the laugh.<BR/><BR/>@Kori - So I bum you out, and YOU'RE sorry? cool!<BR/><BR/>@Jenni - True, its impossible for them to know what to say.<BR/><BR/>@Bettina - Yes, that's what's worrying me now.<BR/><BR/>@Single Parent Dad - Thank you, unfortunately that happiness is counting very much on sperm count!<BR/><BR/>@Momo Fali - No need for name calling.<BR/><BR/>@Snowmanpoop - yeah, it's like 'Well DUH!'<BR/><BR/>@Womb for improvement - Stiff upper lip eh? try being Irish where no one talks about anything that happens above the landing or below the belt.<BR/><BR/>@Horse Chick - Thats very kind. Colour? Why, Pink of course.<BR/><BR/>@James Austin - That's my inclination too. Trust your gut.<BR/><BR/>@iVegasFamily - Therapy it is, not helping a whole lot but at least moves the crap around often enough to avoid stagnation!<BR/><BR/>@Nola - I wish more people did!Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-81791458501732438972008-06-17T01:58:00.000+01:002008-06-17T01:58:00.000+01:00Yup. At least you have your blog for support! I ...Yup. At least you have your blog for support! I wish I'd have been blogging through my infertility. Tough stuff.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-26302828141536320942008-06-16T23:20:00.000+01:002008-06-16T23:20:00.000+01:00Sharing your struggles may create awkwardness amon...Sharing your struggles may create awkwardness amongst friends and family, but there are many people that share your experiences. You've created a large network of supporters that are cheering for you and ET. We want you to realize your dream of parenthood. Imagine if you hadn't told anyone about this, you'd be suffering in silence. That's not healthy. View this as therapuetic.Jason Rothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12344040175168572355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7753223694881775789.post-87332736330575518622008-06-16T22:39:00.000+01:002008-06-16T22:39:00.000+01:00Well written. I can totally relate. There is no ...Well written. I can totally relate. There is no right answer, only to trust your instincts.James (SeattleDad)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04087365610002249685noreply@blogger.com