Sunday 14 September 2008

One week wait

So, half of the two week wait is over.

That is 'two week wait' number 18.

By this time next week we'll be drowning our combined sorrows, or I'll be drinking in celebration for two. Or three. Or four.

For the first time in a few months, the cycle end won't be conflicting with visitors being here. Being able to sulk when you want to is a big bonus.

Not only that, we are both on holidays from work for the next few weeks, so if it all goes down the toilet like every other time, we don't face workmates either.

Then, throw in the fact we have the possibility of a laparoscopy lined up, this could be the best two weeks of anxiousness followed by despair, misery, and disappointment that we've had in ages.

Funny how all this shifts the goalposts on what you'll accept as a 'good day'.

This cycle saw a more 'targeted' approach. Instead of the normal blitz, we took at shot at quality over quantity.

I can't help thinking that regardless of the 'all clear' on the Spencer analysis, that he still might have his off days, and timing his adventures to every second day or so might improve his chances.

So we sent him out at just the right moment again, having had more than an extra half day's rest.

Just in case we might be fooled into thinking we had done something right, our charting attempts suggest that we went too early... so we went again. Taking one for the team, so to speak.

Even now, our chart has automatically calculated that ovulation occurred two days after we believe it did (and should) so I can sum up our chances of success this month as somewhere between fanciful and far fetched.

Just about normal then...


Anonymous said...

Blimey, I can't believe I got in first. Good luck - maybe all the convenient being on your own for miserableness stuff will reel in sods law and this will be the one! If not, I hope all goes well for the laparoscopy.

Sarah said...

Sadly, I dont have to many encouraging words for you love. I will say, as I've said before(sue me, I have lost the ability to construct an original sentence) my fingers are crossed for a successful cycle for you and ET.

MarĂ­a said...

My fingers are crossed. I want you to have a baby dammit.

Jo said...

A hundred commenters, fingers crossed, hopping on one leg, throwing salt, knocking wood, doing a baby dance - and you think you've got it bad having a shag twice?

Fingers croseed, hopping on one leg, etc. x

Mama Smurf said...

Sincerely hoping you find your happy ending.

Anonymous said...

God, adding in the temp charting just makes things even MORE confusing for you. ET's ovulation is like a guerilla. Hiding in the bushes, waiting until you least expect it.

SciFi Dad said...

I'll have a good thought for you two. It's not much, but really it's all I can do at this point.

Anonymous said...

"this could be the best two weeks of anxiousness followed by despair, misery, and disappointment that we've had in ages."

I know what you mean, man. Sometimes the stars are just all aligned. ;)

I've been wondering about you. Glad to see you posted.

Anonymous said...

"this could be the best two weeks of anxiousness followed by despair, misery, and disappointment that we've had in ages"
OMG, you crack me up.
Fingers crossed for you anyway.

Anonymous said...

At the moment, I feel that i want you guys to have a baby more than I do myself!

Anonymous said...

P.S I keep checking back all the time waiting for you to write those magical words. So I guess I have to wait another month now?

River said...

You have to get a break sooner or later. I'm hoping for sooner.

nh said...

'Funny how all this shifts the goalposts on what you'll accept as a 'good day'.'

That comment just rang so true - but stick with it, this could be the one.
Fingers crossed that you win the jackpot this time!

Anonymous said...

I honestly don't know how you do it. I have no patience and a situation like yours would do more than teach it to me. It would drive me batty. 18 months... I'd be a complete loon by now.

Anonymous said...

I am keeping everthing crossed foro you both. I hear you. I hear that you are protecting yourself before fall, cushioning the blow so to speak.
Gentle hugs for you my friend, gentle hugs.

Chaos said...

Well the good side is that you don't have guests. Here's for hoping. :(

Sarah said...

Hope the week flies by and you can finally end the count at 18!!

AnnD said...

I hope this is your month man! I really do. It will restore my faith in God if it is!

Ed (zoesdad) said...

So the guest room is available? I'm there man.

Putz said...

i like the odds of fanciful and far fetched

Putz said...

i like the odds of fanciful and far fetched

People in the Sun said...

Let me join Thopgood in hoping you get a happy ending.

Anonymous said...

You fucker, now all I have is Jovi in my head! ;)

I have a feeling I'll be drinking with you in one week as well. So I'll down an extra beer for you... Sigh.

Anonymous said...

All these calculations are making my brain explode. I might need a drink with you just for that. Go Spencer!

TentCamper said...

Crossing fingers and toes. Good luck and....keep on...keepin on!
At least the process is not torturous...knida fun actually!

Anonymous said...

You were going at it every day? Holy crap! We were just hitting it on Days 10, 12, 14, 16...last time.

Why is it everyone who wants and deserves a baby has a hard time, but yet there's streets loupin' with neds and slappers?

Fingers (but not legs) crossed.

Anonymous said...

...Neds and slappers with buggies that is.

Liz said...

Have a fantastic break. I won't tell you to relax, I just won't.

Anonymous said...


I thought you said the tww was over...oops. So theres still a chance? I've jumped the gun. Oops.

Please tell me now that I wasn't right

Paddy in BA (Quickroute) said...

"both on holidays from work" - I thought this project was your full time job ;-)

Stella said...

as they say at the races...


I'm on cycle 8. I have a few more to catch up with you.

Only - I'm NOT TEMPING THIS MONTH dammit. Its making me crazy.

And that laparoscopy - i hate to even say it, but after 4 months of trying my OBGYN was ready to PENCIL ME IN for one of those. i feel guilty for passing it up - knowing you two are chomping at the bit for a test that would reveal some answers.

Small victories - they're all relative, and keep us inching along. Glad to hear you can still find your silver linings.


Anonymous said...

Best of luck guys (not v. original,I know, but what else can I say).

Hope it all works out, you deserve it.

Kori said...

Well. I have nothing to say for a change, but God knows I cannot pass up a blank comment screen, and I am powerless to stop myself from hitting the Post A Comment link. It is a terrible problem for me and I am considering getting some help.

James (SeattleDad) said...

X you have taken a lot for your team recently. It is high time you got the break you deserve. I'll have my fingers crossed for you this week

Hilary (Maya Papaya) said...

Wishing you loads of luck, like always

Jason Roth said...

My fingers are crossed, my prayers are being recited and my fertility dance is, well, in full swing. My co-workers are wondering what the hell I'm doing.

Maggie, Dammit said...

"this could be the best two weeks of anxiousness followed by despair, misery, and disappointment that we've had in ages..."

In every single post you write, I find something utterly quotable. I don't even know what to say about these gems anymore, I just copy and paste them here, and the little people in my mind jump up and down and point, "look at that brilliance! yippeee!"

Maggie, Dammit said...

OK, I didn't read the comments before I posted mine. Now I see that two other people did the same thing, with the same sentence, as I.


Anonymous said...

Soon, very soon!

♥.Trish.♥ Drumboys said...

Good luck is all I can echo ...thinking of you guys.

Martin said...

@bsouth - Cheers.

@Sarah - Keep your chin up!

@Immoral Matriarch - You're bored with this shit too eh?

@Jothemama - Thanks Jo.

@Thopgood - Thank you very much, that's appreciated.

@Veronica - yes, can I have amoment to say AGGGGGGGGGH.

@SciFi Dad - I'll happily take a good thought, cheers!

@Marie - I'm never far away! How are ye doing?

@Amy - Funny, because its bloody true!

@Tanya - Nope, just a few more days.

@River - knowing my luck it will be a leg or something.

@nh - True though isn't it?

@Angel - bottom line - 'No Choice' oh, and, I AM a loon.

@Tiff - thanks, as always.

@Chaos - yes, no guests. thank god.

@Sraah - Nice round number too isn't it!

@AnnD - Praise the lord!

@Ed - I'd have to get my gun Edward.

@Putz - better than nothing eh?

@People in the sun - Cheers,thanks.

@Christa - I'm sure Bon Jovi have a song about the bottom of a tequila bottle don't they?
If, they should.

@Kittyconcerto - Go indeed spencer, and never come back!

@TentCamper - There are advantages of course!

@Abrittdifferent - different approaches everytime, but mostly every day.
I LOVE the term 'ned'.

@Wombforimprovement - Once I stop scratching I'll relax...

@Quickroute - I'd take a quid for every time quite gladly!

@Stella - The difference in approaches between here and the US are startling.
I know what we miss out on alright.
Good luck on 8.
(stick to temping though, It's quite interesting)

@Tinman18 - It's more than enough! Thank you.

@Kori - Commenters Annonymous!

@James AUstin - 'recently'! bloody hell... seems like a lifetime!
Thanks sir.

@Hilary - Thanks, as always.

@iVegasFamily - that would be quite the picture, IM taking no responsibility for you being fired.

@Maggie, Dammit - a little to the left... lower..bit lower...ahhh.
That's it. Ego scratched.

@hotmamamia - HOW bloody soon woman!

@baby~amore - thank you, appreciated.

Jo Beaufoix said...

Bugger. Still, all is crossed.

Dondi Tiples said...

Guess, what Spencer, I'm writing some SEO article on male enhancement products just about now. (what fantastic timing) And some of these products are touted to increase sperm count and improve *beep* ejaculation *beep* volume. Not that you need it of course. Just thought you might to know what I was up to these days. Hey, Spence? Go for the gold on cycle #18, hey?

Kristin said...

Best of luck with this cycle. I hope somewhere "between fanciful and far fetched" is a positive.

Martin said...

@Jo Beaufoix - Thanks Jo.

@Dondi Tiples - You must get free samples ;0)

@Kristin - Hi Kristin, We can only hope!