Friday, 4 April 2008

Ignorance & Bliss

With all that has lead up to this, the 11 failed cycles of trying to get knocked up and the utterly marvelous revelations that my sperm are couch potatoes, I've started to wonder about what results I really want to see from this semen analysis.

Do I want another set of poor results?
Will this really prompt the Dutch medical world into springing into action and working their magic and bringing an end to the great baby drought of 2007-08?
This would obviously mean more tests, more procedures, and infinitely more waiting.

Do I want great results?

Do I want to see wonderful figures that would send women scurrying for safety with crossed legs for fear of falling pregnant by just being in the presence of such potency?
This will obviously mean that there are other gremlins in our machinery, and therefore, more tests, more procedures, and infinitely more waiting?

It would be like earning a Phd and not being able to get a job.

Do I want to know at all?
What is ACTUALLY the point of knowing the results now?
Whether I like it or not, it doesn't matter if the test shows I've got a lower motile sperm count than Heather Mills has toes, or a greater motile sperm count than she has gold dug dollars in the bank, there still will be no child.

In the end, isn't the only real positive outcome of any fertility test, the family that results?

So, come on Spencer, do your bloody job this time around and make the results irrelevant, for me eh?

24 comments:

Foreigner by Default said...

Go Spencer!

I'm all for knowledge and ...ehmmm... informed decisions.

And I honestly do think that although the information is often rendered useless, it's still better to know.

You'll get there, with more tests & waiting or not.

Karen MEG said...

Aw Xbox, I'm so keeping my fingers crossed for you. But you do raise a very interesting point indeed.

I think it is better to know, though; because then you can move ahead and find out if there are other things that you (as in both of you) can actually do to move the process along. Or that you don't have to do.

Hilary (The Trying Game) said...

I think there is definitely such a thing as knowing too much (recall The Great Cervical Length Scare of February 08)...

However, in your case, knowing all the information could indeed help you and ET to decide on the best course of action to move forward.

Wishing you so much luck!! Please keep us posted with the results.

This Mom said...

I found you through Dad Gone Mad, and just wanted to tell you good luck with the fertility and 'sperm' issues.

Lyssa Ireland Thomas said...

If you do knock ET up this time, I'm not sure it's going to be thanks to Spencer. I think it's going to be all of us praying so hard for y'all! I never wanted something so bad for a person I've never met as I want this for the two of you.

bsouth said...

I think Spencer might need a kick up the arse (do sperm have them?). Of course you need the results - like Foreigner said, you can't make an informed decision without them. Any if you want to make an uninformed decision then you need some info to ignore.

Best of british.

Deb said...

No! In this case, the info will probably be helpful. There are so many options once they know what's causing the issue. Good luck!!

Russ said...

Informed decisions are always better. Let us hope that they won't matter.

Chuck said...

In a small home on a small plot of land in mid Michigan you have a family hoping for nothing but the best results.

In the end, isn't the only real positive outcome of any fertility test, the family that results?

Yes. I'm thinking yes. Hang in there in you two.

frog ponds rock... said...

I am all sooky now.. I think that 'Lyssa ireland thomas' has said exactly what I wanted to say...

xxx kim

BusyDad said...

Spencer just needs some fist pumpin entrance music. Champs don't walk into the ring in silence. It's all in his head (literally) and nothing gets you mentally ready like good entrance music. "I'm gonna knock you up... mama said knock you up!"

tiff said...

Another Aussie family wanting nothing more than Spencer to hit the target square on.

Hugs. Thinking of you.

Myst_72 said...

Best of luck to you mate....

It will happen.

I read in an earlier post you were trying vitamins - I am convinced that zinc helps...

G
xx

Veronica said...

Good luck.

When is ET's period due?

Kelley said...

Oh, shit WHAT do I call you when I am being serious?, Xbox I don't know what to say. Sending all my positive vibes that Spencer pulls his tail outta his arse and does his freaking job already.

Smootches to you and your wonderful wife.

IEAT_SNOWMANPOOP said...

It took us 6 years to get pregnant and we chose not to find out why we couldn't. One it was really expensive and 2 I was afraid to know which one of us it was. Sounds dumb I guess but that's the way it was.

Good luck

Putz said...

1,ooo,ooo,ooo,ooo,ooo,ooo,ooo,ooo,ooooo,ooo,ooo,ooo, and counting

Tara R. said...

Just hope that Spencer does his job and the results will be moot. Good luck no matter what!

warcrygirl said...

Hi there! Found you via DGM. Good luck with your issue issues, here's hoping you and wife are preggers soon!

Joeprah said...

Dude, you got this! It goes without saying but my thoughts are with you.

Amanda said...

I'll keep my fingers crossed for Spencer getting off of his lazy ass.

Anja said...

If Spencer is a lazy little sperm this cycle, why don't you and the little woman take it easy on yourselves and just have some sex for the fun of it. :)

There's always the month after to get back on the merry-go-round. Fingers crossed for you, dude.

Xbox4NappyRash said...

To everyone, because you all say the same bloody thing, (typical, no originality) thanks.
You are right of course, knowledge is power and all that crap.
But you are right. Thanks again.

specifically to 'This mom', 'Myst_72' 'war cry girl' & 'anja' thanks for making the trip over here, and taking the time to add a comment, many thanks.

Myst_72 - you mention zinc, do you mean for him, her or both?

Roth Family Adventures said...

Good luck to you this month.

Spencer...make us all proud.